The best thing we can say to our kids regarding their participation in sports is, “I love watching you play! It’s great to see you compete and have fun!”
Comment on specific things your child did well, but Refrain from giving a critique unless they ask you for specific feedback. Remember that their coach has probably already informed them of what they need to work on, and after a poor performance, the athletes are already talking to themselves about it. Therefore, the best support a parent can offer to a son or daughter after a poor performance, is a positive comment about their good sportsmanship and ability to encourage and cheer for their teammates even during a tough loss.
They just want to know we were there , we are proud of them, and we enjoyed watching.